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I Turned 24 & It’s Really Not the End of the World

Yesterday I turned 24. I wouldn’t say I was dreading it, but after college it seems like each passing year adds so much pressure to where you’re supposed to be, what you are and aren’t supposed to be doing, and what you’ve accomplished. When I was unemployed I was actually terrified of not having found a new job by the time I turned 24. I don’t know what about the number scared me so much — but not having a real job seemed like it would be much more of a failure at 24 than it would at 23.


After you graduate college, for most of us every year starts to feel like a ticking time bomb towards 30. If we’re being real, 25. Because that’s when we all know that we’re half-way there and should probably have our shit together. We get so caught up in meeting these deadlines and cramming as much fun as possible into our early-mid 20s because of what we think we’ll have to give up.


We know in the back of our minds that there will be a day where we can’t call up one of our friends on a Tuesday and convince them to black out with us at a Mexican restaurant or take a random weekend trip with like 40 minutes of planning. And it’s kind of scary.


I’ll be the first to admit that these deadlines have validity and that I freak out about them all the time. But I don’t think they’re as concrete or frightening as we’ve made them out to be.


But even though everything isn’t perfect and I’m not 100% happy all the time, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been at 24. To be completely honest with you, I thought it was pretty much downhill after 22. I never would have imagined how much fun I’d be having.


Paying bills sucks, but being happy in adulthood is about figuring out what you want, how you’re going to get there, and who you’re going to get there with.


You will always have fun if you surround yourself with the right people, work hard and live a life of personal accountability that constantly gives you reasons to celebrate.


Everything may not happen how you want it to or how you expected it to but as you get older you realize that if you work hard, smart and take responsibility for where you want to be, things tend to work out eventually — and often better than you could have hoped for in the first place.


I think that the more grateful you are for your present, the better future you’re bound to have. If you treat every day as a gift, use it for everything it’s worth, grow from your losses and celebrate your wins, you can’t lose. Or at least the Ls you take will be few and far between, and won’t be permanent. So growing up really shouldn’t scare us as much as it does.


I will probably have a panic attack when I turn 30, but I’m convinced that even then I’ll still be having fun. It just might be a different kind of fun than the fun I’m having now.


So here’s to 24, 25…and even 30.



  • Tiia
    11 months ago

    I think that age brings some kind of certainty and self-confident. You get more experience and be more smart. 🙂

    • The Pretty Patriot
      10 months ago

      I agree, but I also weirdly feel myself getting more insecure with age sometimes lol

  • Elizabeth Keene
    11 months ago

    I can really relate to that feeling of pressure as I get older. When we are younger we have all these ideas of where we will be by a certain age that set some pretty unrealistic expectations on our older selves. Its important that as we reach these ages we reflect on were we’ve come from, not what we haven’t done.

    Great post!



    • The Pretty Patriot
      10 months ago

      Yes it’s a little too relatable for most people. And for me it’s not even thinking about where I thought I would be when I was younger it’s constantly comparing myself to other people my age more accomplished than me. But I agree, and thank you!

  • JoeHx
    11 months ago

    I hated turning 30…. but my 30’s have been so much better than my 20’s. I was mostly depressed in my 20’s, but I’ve had a lot of awesome things happen to me in my 30’s that really have turned my life around.

    • The Pretty Patriot
      10 months ago

      That’s great to hear; thank you for sharing! Definitely makes me optimistic

  • Megan DeMoss
    11 months ago

    This. This is everything. You couldn’t have said it any better. Thank you for this reminder.

    • The Pretty Patriot
      10 months ago

      Thank you! I’m so glad you liked it.

  • Dheandra
    10 months ago

    This post is too accurate. I had this really tight deadline when I was younger which involved me being engaged by 23 and married by 25. Welp, here I am single, not working the high paying full time job I thought I would be and still confused about wtf I’m going. But like you said it’ll be okay. It’s more about are you enjoying your life versus is your life adhering to some sort of ridiculously strict life timeline.

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