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5 Ways To Be A Better Girlfriend

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There isn’t a slight semblance of baeage in my life, so I don’t know why I’m giving relationship advice, and I don’t know why anyone would take it, but here we are. Dealing with my friends of both genders, I’ve learned a lot, and I think that women could have much happier, more fulfilling the relationships if they thought about adopting some of these habits.

Pick up the tab

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While I do feel kind of bad about the financial responsibility assumed by men, I don’t have a problem with guys paying for me, and despite the lowkey guilt I feel sometimes, most worthwhile men want to pay for you anyway. However, once in a relationship, I think that the girl picking up the tab every once in a while can go a long way. Your boyfriend isn’t your dad and you aren’t his dependent. You’re a team, and you should act like it.

Actually listen to him when you disagree

You aren’t always right. And to grow as a person and a girlfriend, you should be more open to that possibility. When you’re wrong, you should acknowledge it and apologize. Groundbreaking, I know.

Shop with your friends 

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I’ve worked in retail for what feels like a hellish eternity, and while there have been exceptions, there is no one more miserable than guys shopping with their girlfriends. While he may like one dress more than another, at the end of the day he’s going to think you’re hot no matter what you’re wearing. Leave the poor chump at home, and shop with your friends. Also, stop leaving your Starbucks in fitting rooms.

Make an effort to compliment/encourage him

Men are conditioned not to talk about their insecurities, but they still have them, and a few kind words can go a long way. As a society we often forget that while men and women are different, there are universal struggles and desires that apply to most people regardless of what’s in between their legs.

Think harder about gifts

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Buying gifts for guys is hard. It’s easy to just settle on something like cuff links or a watch- which by the way I’m superstitious about. My mom says that buying a watch for a man sets a time limit on your relationship and buying shoes means he’ll walk out on you. Do I sound like a psycho that gets palm readings and smells like cat nip? Probably, but I’m still never buying either of those gifts for a dude. But go the extra mile and think about what he likes, what he wants, and what he needs. Is he in a fraternity? How about a butt load of dad Hawaiian shirts to wear to different events. What sports teams does he root for? How about a ticket to their most important game of the season and some gear? Get creative (despite the fact that neither of those suggestions were very creative) and put more effort into it.

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