If you’ve had an abortion or think you may want one in the future, I’m not here to judge you, I’m not here to scold you, and I’m not here to argue with you. But I am here to ask you why you’re defining yourself and your future by sleeping with men you don’t love, or that don’t love you.
I know the pro-abortion instinct is to immediately deflect to statistical rarities like rape or incest or life threatening complications. Or the married suburban mothers that decided to terminate their pregnancies for whatever reason. But almost 90% of abortions are obtained by unmarried, adult women having consensual sex.
Maybe they don’t think it’s the right time in their careers. Maybe they just don’t see themselves raising kids. Maybe they feel like they can’t afford a child.
And I don’t want to diminish any of that.
As much as tradtards insist that every woman wants to spend her entire life pregnant, swiffering, and tending sourdough starter, and that a woman’s value is solely measured in children reared, if that were true, the feminist revolution never would have taken off.
If women were completely satisfied with the way things were going, the propaganda wouldn’t have been effective. They couldn’t have convinced millions of women to get educations and jobs or value autonomy.
I think most women would be happier at home raising families than in the workforce – and I’m one of them. But there are a lot of smart, passionate, talented, multidimensional women that have a lot more to offer the world than their wombs or domestic labor.
To be clear, I’m not trying to imply that homemaking is less important to the world than professional pursuits. I’m just annoyed with the popular idea in right wing circles that women can’t meaningfully contribute to society outside of motherhood. I think God gives us gifts and interests for a reason, and when people insinuate that all women should force themselves to fit into these rigid roles and timelines without wiggle room, they discourage people from being who God made them to be and accomplishing what He made them to do.
While the vast majority of women will yearn for motherhood, some women will never develop that urge – and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I think it’s actually great that we’re living in a time where women don’t have to get married and have kids for security.
In my perfect world, I’d be married with kids already. Spiritually and emotionally, I know that children are blessings. But as I navigate the neverending financial obstacles of adulthood, barely able to support myself in the Biden-Harris economy, I’ve found myself thinking, “the only way my life could be worse right now is trying to support another person on my income.”
All that to say, I don’t support abortion and I never have, but I get it.
I understand why and how a woman might find herself in a situation where she feels it’s what she has to do.
What I don’t understand, though, is why so many women have convinced themselves that it’s the single most important issue on the ballot, or why people would be willing to vote for an objective failure and imbecile to secure a national right to this procedure.
While I was okay with the idea of having one or two kids for most of my early 20s, I didn’t actively want kids until I’d fallen in love for the first time at 23. It wasn’t something that really crossed my mind and out of nowhere it felt like every second I spent not growing his child was a tragedy and a waste. I had only wanted boys, but thinking of what an attentive and doting girl dad he would have been to some spoiled, fat faced angel made me want a daughter for the first time.
Really loving a man changed me and the life I wanted. And every woman is different, but I suspect a lot of women can relate to that.
And I guess my question is, if you can’t relate, why are you sexually active?
I’m not saying that sex only exists for procreation. I’ve never believed that and I doubt I ever will.
I’m not trying to police you, or tell you how to live.
I know that abortion advocacy exists outside of low commitment relationships, but we’re kidding ourselves to deny the relationship between the two. If you’re getting naked with someone you can’t see yourself with for the long haul, I have questions for you, and for your sake, I hope you’ll answer honestly.
There are women that genuinely enjoy casual sex but they’re few and far between. Are you really one of them?
Or have you been conditioned to believe it’s the price you have to pay for the intimacy and human connection you naturally crave?
If your career is so important to you, if your finances are so important to you, if your independence is so important to you…why are you willing to risk it on a man that you can’t trust to bring life into the world with?
Is this who you really want? Is this what you really want?
Is the sex actually good or is it just available?
Would you rather go without sex until you find the right person, or subject yourself to the physical and mental turmoil that often accompany sleeping with the wrong person?
Are you sexually free and liberated, or are you trying to make the best of bad circumstances?
Do you feel fulfilled and content, or are you riddled with anxiety and negativity because your body is betraying your mind and heart?
Is sex something you should settle for, or is it something worth reserving for someone you adore, who adores you?
Would you rather sacrifice short-lived pleasures or your long term peace?
If the United States government stays on its current trajectory, it will cost you more in money and freedom than a child would have. Is that a risk you’re willing to take?
Are you so committed to sex with men you don’t see a future with that you’d rather live in a country without one?
If hookup culture and all that comes with it is what you want for yourself, I can’t stop you. But it still doesn’t justify embarrassing the nation and yourself by voting for Kamala Harris.
Donald Trump was pro-choice for most of his life, and his wife still is. He blamed pro-life activists for an underwhelming midterm election in 2022, insisting that they should have left the issue alone after it was returned to the states. He has gone on record supporting a pro-abortion amendment to Florida’s constitution, and has explicitly stated he wouldn’t sign a national abortion ban.
Abortions aren’t as convenient as they used to be. But America is significantly less safe, free, and prosperous than it used to be, and if you’d rather see us become a third world country than put on a condom, I don’t know what to tell you.
what do you think?