Last week, the 2013 Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show aired and everyone, everywhere was watching. The VSFS is so popular because it’s much, much more than a fashion show. It’s an event like no other, with a team behind it that works tirelessly year in and year out to ensure the show’s success. Somehow they continue outdo themselves every year and each production is more grande and eye catching than the last.
What I dread annually about the VSFS, though, is inevitable posts on social media of self loathing as women compare themselves to the Angels.
What people seem not to understand are that a model’s job is LITERALLY to look good.
Their jobs, and consequently their lives revolve around looking good.
Their remarkable heights and slender physiques are what really set them a part, but they aren’t all necessarily your physical superiors.
They are professionals. Almost every day of their lives they pay as much attention to how they look as most women do on their prom and wedding nights.
If you really wanted to “be them” you need to be willing to work as hard as they did to perfect their walks, to face rejection after rejection, to get up at ridiculous hours in the morning for calls and shoots, to develop a stage presence, to become comfortable and versatile in front of a camera, to discipline yourself into developing and maintaining the eating and exercise habits they did.
If not, you need to accept that you aren’t willing to apply yourself the way they did, applaud them as they strut, and understand that beauty isn’t something that is supposed to be measured and compared. So instead of hating yourself because you aren’t Adriana or Behati or Candice, understand that just because you aren’t constantly under flattering lighting with perfect makeup and a fan blowing in your face, you aren’t some sort of aesthetic failure.
In the words of Miranda Kerr, “a rose can never be a sunflower and a sunflower can never be a rose. All flowers are beautiful in their own way, and that’s like women too.”